This has been brewing in me for some time, the first time I heard of this was just recently, because I didn't care to learn of it before a friend cried to me because someone called her character that because of how she looked. In doing my research I've found out more and what most call a 'Mary Sue' is what we all want our characters, even ourselves to be: Flawless, Loved by All, Smart, Brave, Kind...in short Perfect.
We do not write them this way because it is not realistic...but we picture them that way in our heads. Anyone who says they don't is a liar. I have had my OC for years and she is my base OC, I do not have many, I modify her for the stories because to me she is perfect, but flawed as to appear real. But in my fantasies, the ones I do not write down because I don't want to be judged for a silly fantasy, she is stronger than Lord Voldemort, smarter than Hermoine, braver than Harry, more loyal than Ron, more cunning than Draco and could catch the heart of every boy at Hogwarts. She is as peppy as America, as well trained as Germany, as well read as England, as romantic as France, as much a smart ass as Romano, as kind as Italy, as musically talented as Austria, as kinky as Prussia, as fun loving as Spain, as wise as China, as strategic as Japan and as strong as Russia. In my thoughts she could have any and every nation as her lover and not be judged for it. Yet I don't put them on paper.
Some OC's are young. And I do not mean in their age, but in their conception. I recall my earlier fics, in which she could have been seen as a 'Mary Sue'. We are all guilty of this and in the end we are embarrassed because of our 'selfish', childish', 'stupid' fantasies, so we take it out on others who wish to put the fantasy onto paper or word document. Which is sad. There is a difference in critiquing and insulting. And from what I see, it's insulting being done. I have seen a fanfic writer even stop writing three short oneshots in because of the hate being sent her way. She had only been writing fics for three one shots...that is not enough time to develop an OC, or fanfic style or voice. We hate on these so called 'Mary Sue' characters, when we all have them, our OC's, tragic back story, unique singular talent, quirks, likes, dislikes, pain, suffering, trials and tribulations, hide our true need for appreciation and being loved by all and being flawless or perfect.
A 'Mary Sue' character is not a crime, a 'Mary Sue' story is not a crime, and we should not treat them this way. Sometimes a fanfic writer just wants to fantasize about being able to overcome all problems their character may face when they cannot do so in real life. So next time you want to hate on 'Mary Sue' remember, she is you deep down.
And if you want to hate my defense of her, you are free to do so. I am just speaking my mind, not to be hurtful or hateful, just to put my thoughts out there and save some OCs out there from the scrap pile, because in every 'Mary Sue' is a full fledged character that just needs nurturing to come out, offer ideas for improvement not hate for their perfection...I mean...nobody is perfect...we know this...but we want to be. So my defense of 'Mary Sue' is a defense of how a fandom should nurture and accept one another not hate and deny one another.
Think before you type, is it hate or help.
'Mary Sue' I defend you because, hell in my head I'm as flawless as you...maybe even in an unposted fic or two.